My children had an unfortunate experience the other day. We learned that some people are mean just to be mean. In trying to play with a child who lives a few houses down my kids got into trouble. Not for doing anything that they shouldn't have, they were just playing. They got into trouble simply because this child took a dislike to them and pulled out all the stops when her grandmother (her guardian) came to get her for dinner. She cried and pointed, didn't even talk (she's 6). And grandma did what anyone would do in that situation and got upset. I don't fault that at all. If my kid was crying, I'd get a bit upset too. The fault I found with that is Granny didn't ask any of the other kids, which there were 5 others playing in close proximity, what happened. She just took immediate action and glowered. I have a feeling she would have bawled Mr O and Peaches out, but I was right there. She also didn't ask me what happened either, me being the only adult on scene. Had it been me in her shoes, I would have asked others what happened, instead of taking immediate defence. So, long story short, my kids are not allowed to play with that little girl any more. All they were trying to do was be friends and play. And in all honesty, I feel sad for that little girl. She is growing up thinking that it is ok to be mean and manipulative. She's going to be in for a very rude awakening when she gets into the real world and out of Granny's house (where that behavior is apparently totally acceptable). And I really feel sorry for the Granny when that kid gets to be a teenager. Wow, is really all I have to say.
I'm saddened that my children had to have this particular experience so early in life. I'm sorry that they cannot be friends with everyone. And I'm especially sorry for those people that are just mean, because they are the ones missing out. My kids are perfectly ok with not playing with that little girl, they have plenty of other friends. But that little girl is growing up to be manipulate and pushing everyone out of her life. Eventually, if she continues this behavior, she'll end up sad and alone, and because of that I am sorry for her.
But even though it was an unfortunate happening, we all have learned from it.
Ask the witnesses, don't just take the situation at "face" value.
Some people are just mean, and the best relationship in that case is No relationship.
And finally,
Happiness is your own doing. You have to find it for yourself. No one can hand you something and tell you to be happy, it is your choice to be happy or not.
Happiness isn't a destination, it is the journey. ~Eleanor Roosevelt